With internet dating becoming more and more popular, I really wanted to give some tips for being safe with Dom and Sub relationships which will help you stay safe online but also ensure you have a wonderful time.
The world of BDSM is becoming more and more popular with specific dating sites popping up such as mistress dating which allows you to explore this more specifically.
Whilst Dom and Sub is considered a fetish and can be incorporated into role play, it can also be a lifestyle. But it is the type of thing you need to really consider being safe about for many reasons which I will go into tips for being safe with Dom and Sub relationships.
4 Tips For Being Safe With Dom And Sub Relationships
Use Dom and Sub dating websites
You may find it hard t find someone using your every day dating websites so you might need to consider using Sub and Dom websites instead.
There are many bdsm dating websites you can explore to find someone you can date.
One thing I would advise is to use websites that are either free or have a cheap membership. Don’t get roped into the websites where you pay per message as this soon mounts up.
It’s harder to know what people are into using regular websites as they don’t really go into your sexual adventures, more so your likes and dislikes in everyday settings.
So you could speak to someone for a while and then come to find this isn’t for them.
Sticking to your BDSM type websites is always great for potential relationships.
Internet safety first
A very important tip I wanted to include in the 5 tips for being safe with Dom and Sub relationships is being safe on the internet.
Research any site you want to use firstly, check out a few review sites like Trust Pilot and make sure they are legitimate.
Avoid paying any site money if you can, also don’t pay anyone any money either.
A typical scam at the moment is the Sugar Daddy/Mummy scam where they say they will send you large amounts of money but you need to prove you are real first and have to send them money. If they offer you money, but you have to prove yourself first, stay well away.
Another scam is that they will ask quite quickly for money, someone in their family is sick, get a flight over to the UK or something of the like. The moment they ask for money, block them.
Make sure you also use a different password for the websites and nothing like your internet banking, email passwords. These types of sites tend to get hacked more because of the blackmail potential. We all seen a huge escorting website get leaked a few years ago. So try to use an email address made up especially for dating and of course, strong passwords. Use a mixture of letters, numbers and symbols.
Be upfront and honest about everything
It’s always a good idea to be very upfront and honest about everything, such as your likes and dislikes, your hard limits, also what you are looking for and whether you are monogamous/polyamorous and whether you just want fun or something more.
Whether you are a Dom and Sub or a switch, it is equally as important to let them know what you are. Some like to switch it up, whilst others would only consider either Dom and Sub.
If you are already in a relationship, also be upfront about that.
Whatever you are looking for, whether it is online or you want to meet up, make sure you are honest about it and don’t lead them on into meeting when this is not what you want.
Giving them everything upfront will open the communication between you both and make things easier for you both and avoid any mixed communication later on.
If you want to make money from this, being an online Dominatrix is a good way to earn the money however you need to make sure you are upfront that you want payment. This can cause many issues later down the line if not.
Use safety words or safety system with Dom and Sub play
It’s obvious that when you are exploring BDSM you have safety words when you are considering Dom and Sub play. This is such an important aspect of Dom and Sub relationships.
Whatever you are doing, even something fun, make sure you set a safety system or word that will stop everything dead in its tracks.
A good idea is to use either a traffic light system or use a word you would never use, such as pineapple.
Green for example means good to carry on, amber means it’s borderline and red means stop. You can use other colours like blue as I want more, or harder etc.
Even if it is online, you still need this system in place to avoid any problems and making the Dom and Sub relationships go smoothly.
As long as you have set our your goals, your Dom and Sub play will go ahead with no hitches as that is your end goal.
Final thoughts
Whatever you decide to do, make sure you stay safe, never give anyone money and make sure you are open, honest and upfront about what your expectations are.
This will make any meets whether online or offline easy, manageable and both are communicating effectively which is super important when considering Dom and Sub relationships.
I hope you enjoyed my tips for being safe with Dom and Sub relationships and know that there is someone out there for you, you just really need to search for relatable websites.
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